It would be great if there was one easy answer when it comes to dealing with difficult people. But there isn’t. You’ll need to deal with each difficult person you encounter individually.
Sometimes, a difficult person has traits from multiple types of difficult behavior. For example, someone may exhibit traits of a negative person, but at times also be aggressive or manipulative. But you don’t need to feel overwhelmed by all the combinations of behavior you might encounter. Even though the answers for each difficult person’s behavior are different, the methods of finding those answers are the same.
One thing to keep in mind is that change must come from your side. Remember, you’re the one who thinks there’s a problem. You’re the one who’s distressed by the situation, and the person causing the distress isn’t likely to just go away. You also need to realize that the difficult person won’t likely change.
Difficult people seldom think of themselves as difficult, so there’s no incentive for them to change their behavior. Realizing that the person causing you problems isn’t going away and isn’t going to change, it’s up to you to obtain a better understanding of the behavior that’s causing you distress.
It’s not easy to react in the best way when confronted with a difficult person. It’s tough to stay calm when somebody’s pushing your buttons. You don’t want to lose your self-control and say or do something that ends up making the situation worse. To deal with a difficult person effectively, you need to prepare yourself before the encounter. If you’re prepared, it’ll make it easier to remain on track and focused on dealing with the problem.
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